Yesterday was like any other day; work, homeschooling, more work, cleaning, shopping, cooking... Then came the rice... Curious? Well, you are in for quite a treat with this one. Again, I find myself in the awkward position of sharing a bit too much of us in an effort to heal and help myself and reach others...Let me get right to it.Last night, I made my husband's favorite meal; pepper steak over rice. He LOVES it! I do not make it very often because the meat for it is a bit pricy for this budget minded Momma. However, I wanted to do something special for him and my youngest daughter since it is her favorite too.Everything seemed to be going fine. Hubbie was sharing work stories and we were all enjoying our meal. Until... I saw him make a second full plate of dinner. Now, normally, he has one full plate and then maybe a couple bites more since he loves it so much. Not this time. He pigged out. I did not say anything at this point. In the back of my mind though, I was thinking about whether there would be enough for his work lunch. (He likes to take leftovers for lunch the next day.)I did not have to wait long to find out.He opens the rice pot and sees that there is only about half of what he would like to go with the meat, sauce and pepper portion of the meal.He rudely says to me; "You didn't make enough rice... AGAIN!"Now, for me, it is not what he said, but the WAY he said it.I reply; "I made the same amount of rice I ALWAYS do AND I … [Read more...]
For the Love of … Rice???
The Legend of Zelda
Last week I was given the opportunity to respond or react to a situation and I am happy to say that I responded...really well!A quick comparison of responding v/s reacting in marriage... Responding: is calm. Looking at the big picture and focusing on the person and the integrity of the relationship over the issue.Reacting: is turbulent. It is like opposing to the person. It is losing your temper and advancing the issue in a negative way. It is focusing on self and putting the issue above the relationship. A Little History: My husband has a problem with video games. They can become a stronghold in his life at any given time. Because of this, our marriage has had many issues with it over the years--serious issues. It is like any addiction. Sadly, many people, (especially those who have never dealt with addiction of any kind) do not understand video game addiction. It is real, hard on a family, and very time consuming. Thankfully, we have managed to put it in its proper place and my husband has diligently made efforts to keep it at a minimum.When we first started dealing with the issue, I wanted it gone completely. However, I soon came to realize that there was no way it was going to happen the way I wanted it to. I had to come to terms with that and find a compromise. We had a few boundaries and limitations set. We agreed that there would be no more quests, games rated T and up were not allowed, and he would not play for hours on end. Things were going smoothly … [Read more...]
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