Note: I really hope my transparency does not offend or scare any of you! I am just being open and honest in my struggles as a wife who is still BECOMING all that God designed her to be! :)The thing about me and my temper (as far as dealing with my husband) , I can turn on a dime. I mean he just has to say one seemingly innocent comment, and it can trigger a emotional hurricane in me that would scare the most daring of storm chasers! If you have been reading this blog for any length of time, you are aware of my Dark Phoenix side. Honestly, that character in X-Men really does explain what I mean. I mean she is sweet and kind on one hand, but then there is another side of her that will incinerate anyone who gets her panties in a wad!Sadly, I seem to fail in the area of my temper over and over again. It is incredibly frustrating to think that I have it under control--and then boom: I have a violent cyclonic storm fly out of me at the speed of light! Of course I always repent afterwards and feel completely ashamed... Case in Point... Since about two months before my little one turned 8, my husband has been acting like she should now be an adult. I mean, he thinks she should no longer need her music box at night, baths, playing with dolls, her blanket, etc. I think he is insane. Did he forget the other one we raised?? These things are gradually let go of...over years of growing and maturing. It does not happen all at once. It is little by little. She is like many 8 year … [Read more...]
Taming of the Shrew
Marriage is not a Romance Movie…
If movies and television shows were any true indication as to what marriage really is, I would be overwhelmingly sad! Honestly, it took me a long time--a really long time, to come to a place where I came to understand that my marriage is not a romance movie. It never will be either. It is very disheartening when you see all these wonderful romantic gestures and then you get a CD cleaner for Christmas... *sigh* Don't get me wrong, I think our husbands should attempt to put forth some effort. We, as women, need to feel loved and wanted. Unfortunately, as wives, we sometimes fail to see that they really ARE romantic in many ways and in their own ways.For example, when my husband stops at the store for me on his way home from a long day at work, he IS loving me. That IS romance--from a man's point of view.Those little things they do and ways they help us ARE loving and their way of expressing it!When we come to realize that and actually LOOK for it, we will be overwhelmed with how loved we really are...I had to literally lay down soap operas, books and certain films/shows that filled my head with ick. God cleaned this area of my life out fairly early in my walk with Him. It has done me a lot of good, because watching all that junk on a regular basis gives you the grass is greener thought process. Or at the very least, you begin to covet. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, … [Read more...]
The List
Last night me and the old man had a bit of a tiff. Nothing in the "Dark Phoenix" realm, however, still significant in my mind...So, I come home from the last of my Christmas shopping. This was the day my girls got to get Daddy a gift from them. I was happy to be done with my part. My husband had yet to even start his shopping...This is nothing new. He waits until the very last minute most years. That does not bother me because I know he is busy. What ticked me off this night was "the list" convo we had! It went something like this... Old Man: "Hey, do you have my list yet?"Me: "List?"Old Man: "Yeah, my Christmas list of what you want."Me: "Oh, yeah, I have it on my phone... (pause) ... But, don't you have ANY of your own ideas??"Old Man: "No."Me: "Are you serious??? I went out and thought of you and got things OFF your list--not just on it!"Old Man: "Well, then you got stuff I don't want! If it's not on the list, I didn't ask for it!"Me: (seething) "You are such a JERK!"Old Man: "Whatever!" *Long Quiet Time....* This is where I am having an inner conversation battle with the Lord, that went something like this...The Lord: "Tell him you are sorry."Me: "NO WAY! Did You not hear what he just said to me?? He is SOOOOOOO inconsiderate. I mean, it's like I shopped for nothing. He already said he wouldn't like my gifts!"The Lord: "He never said those words. Regardless, say you are sorry."Me: "NO! Heeeeee is the WRONG … [Read more...]
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