The other day, we took a trip to the local Target as a family. It is a great way for us to spend time as a family while getting errands done.On this particular trip, we were looking for some sort of pad or rug to place on some shelves we put up last week. The shelves are for one of our cats to get up and down from the top of our entertainment center. They are a bit slippery and we thought a rug type item would help. Anyway, the discussion of how to get the material to stick to the "step" came up. We were looking at several options when an older gentleman came down the aisle we were on...My husband immediately started asking him his opinion.This embarrasses me.I was already getting irritated about how long this supposedly simple thing was taking us to figure out...I was in no mood for my husband's fixation on older men! I mean if there is an older man at a party, he will be sitting and chatting with him. If a friend's dad is in town or comes to church, my husband is right there chatting with him. If there is an old man around when we are trying to figure out what to get for a particular project (no, this was not the first time a strange old man was brought into a discussion), my husband will gravitate towards him...It annoys me.It also vexed me. I mean I would always wonder why??I was about to get my answer and feel like a complete doof for yet again being a spoiled brat...After the man gave his insight and went on about his day, I looked at my … [Read more...]
Flowers
My husband brought home flowers for me yesterday. This really was out of the blue. You see, he is not really the "romantic" type and on this day, he got a call from one of our 'bills' to discover I forgot to pay it. So, it was an especially good day for him to be irritated with me. However, I got flowers. I was surprised, to say the least, and so being me, I had to analyze the situation in my head until I found an answer to this unusual behavior. LOL! A light bulb went on! I have been showing my husband reverence. Lately, I have been kind with my words, gentle in my tone and preferring him as often as I can beat my flesh into submission to do so.God has been giving me the same Scripture over and over again in my study time. I shared it yesterday and I will share it again today for those who may have missed it... ...and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly. - Ephesians 5:33b Reverence - awe of, revere, a feeling or attitude of deep respect tinged with awe, the outward manifestation of this feeling.The thesaurus gave some more insight; honor, admiration, adoration, devotion, show honor and devotion to, look up to, respectfully cherish.On the flip side; disrespect, dishonor, despise, scorn, mock, snap one's fingers at, disregard, hatred. Sadly, I have spent for too … [Read more...]
Cluck…Cluck…Cluck
That is the sound of the mother hen in me when I hear my husband being to harsh, teasing or being what I perceive to be unfair to my beloved daughters. He is an awesome father, mind you, however, he can be a bit short and sometimes he causes my feathers to ruffle...For example, I'll be in the kitchen cooking dinner and I'll hear him and my youngest getting hostile over a game. I can hear him trying to explain something to our heard-headed daughter in a not as patient as he could be way.My feathers rustle... Cluck...Cluck...Cluck Normally, I would come rushing in and defend my beloved offspring. After all, I was designed to protect my young! I must be "right" to do this. I am a Mother for crying out loud!Unfortunately, running into the room to "defend" my baby in front of her father is not a good thing for my marriage. It makes my husband feel dishonored and emasculated. NOT good. And, let me tell you, I am a tigress when it comes to my sweet girls.Inevitably, we wind up in a fight and I have completely stepped out of my helper role and into a mother role towards my husband...all in front of my daughters. NOT good.I should be training them to be honoring wives who HELP their husbands--not hinder them. They should see me in my proper role and living out reverence before them. Sadly, I fail far more than I succeed in this area.I am quite stubborn and hard headed...The good news is, I am gaining a grip on this area and had quite a successful … [Read more...]
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