Little Miss Bossy

There are times when I take a good hard look at myself and I am not happy with what I see. One of my sinful qualities is my bossiness. I am a very strong woman and if I have an opinion on a matter, I am happy to let you know! Unfortunately, this does not bode well in a marriage. When Little Miss Bossy comes to visit, my hubbie is not a happy camper. I would think that no husband would enjoy being told what to do by his wife. After all, God created them as men–to lead. THEY are the leaders. God gave them the role. Sadly, it is very difficult for most women, including myself, to LET them lead.

I think a lot of it stems from trust.

What if they mess up?

What if I have to go down with them??

What if…

Yes, they could flop.

Yes, I am certain they WILL fail from time to time…

However, I strongly believe that when we ALLOW them to lead, and encourage them, God will protect us from most mishaps. He honors OUR obedience and He judges OUR motives and hearts.

I am reminded of when Abraham lied to King Abimelech (see Genesis 20…and it wasn’t even the first time! See Genesis 12 too!). He told him that Sara was his sister–instead of his wife. You see, he took matters into his own hands and Sara may have had to suffer the consequences of his actions.

Sara submitted to her husband and went with his less than fabulous plan. God honored her for honoring her husband and protected her from Abraham’s stupidity!

Obviously, this is not something that happens in today’s world…

But…

There are ways that our husbands can make foolish decisions…

Maybe with finances, important decisions, etc.

NO matter the issue, if WE are following God, and TRUST Him, I believe God WILL protect us.

Now, before you get your panties in a wad and start blasting off in the comment section…

I am NOT saying follow your husband off a cliff.

I am NOT saying jump out of a plane without a parachute.

I am not saying to not share concerns with your husband about his decisions.

I AM saying…

Trust God more.

Get in your proper role.

Stop complaining that he does not lead and ALLOW him the opportunity to LEAD.

And STOP letting Little Miss Bossy take charge!

For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body. - Ephesians 5:23 (amp)

Listen, I am the first to admit that letting my husband lead is like getting a root canal with no anesthesia! It is downright painful at times! Yet, I know that it is God’s Will for my husband to lead. I know that God created HIM to be the leader, and I know that God knows better than I do! So…in the end, I must lay down my flesh and trust God that He will take care of me when my husband does it all wrong!

One thing that may encourage you, as I have let my husband lead, and pray for his leadership, I notice that He actually asks for my input a lot more and I am able to influence him in a good way. :)

IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands–subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them, so that even if any do not obey the Word of God, they may be won over not by discussion but by the godly lives of their wives, When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him--to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband]. - 1 Peter 3:1-2 (amp)

You see, OUR conduct helps them — both in a good and/or bad way…

In closing, in order to REALLY live as a Biblical wife and REALLY become a wife that pleases the Lord, we…I…must shake off the world and it’s ideas, and TRUST my Daddy God and take Him at His Word!

OK, so…I need to go give Little Miss Bossy her walking papers…